You hear the quiet of silence, or is it the murmur of chilly wind, and the fingers of an icy blast sends you huddling to find shelter. You are aware the arctic storm is about to erupt!

But the devastation you fear won’t be from material possessions lost, but from something far more loved, a once loving marriage being turned to impenetrable ice.

No matter what turned the heat of your love to wintery blast, rarely do any of us know how to relight the flame and begin shielding ourselves from the biting cold.

In fact…

Unlike a real winter disaster when help comes to dig you out and bring warmth back to your life, attempting to smash the deeply frozen core is often the WRONG approach to take when trying to warm relationship problems.

Let’s imagine that since this ‘recession’ your love has turned to ice due to some worrisome financial problems.

Not too hard to imagine these days?

These may start with a few chilly taunts, minor issues and arguments over how and where money is being spent…or not spent.

Then, maybe because of the cold environment and pressure of these financial chills your partner starts evading you and moving to more warming environs and this is not helping your cooling love.

They escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber Porn…or worse?

So now there are two chilly situations and quietly developing is a third because the other partner is starting to feel the icy winds full bore.

Can you sense the frost?

Feel the temperature plummet and the ice growing around you?

Now with all these freezing winds blasting within the relationship, it’ll be not time before the ice grows and the walls start crumbling under the weight.

So where do we generate the warmth first?

Our frozen finances? Our financial chill seems pretty tough to heat up right now and not likely to see any warmth soon.

So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems like an easy chill to warm… provided your not the one running!

…and try informing someone that’s out in the cold and isolated that “they should just snap out of it” is like showing their face in the snow.

So where do we start? Particularly when the reality is we do not have enough genuine warmth to heat everything at once, so there is always a patch of ice… Somewhere!

The answer is… We start where there is a warming glow, and build a fire that will develop a glow all around.

What we should do is stop focusing on the problems  and focus on where we still have feelings…even if it’s just a little.

Look for the things you love doing together, put your burdens aside and start exploring the love you once enjoyed.

And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you re-discover the fire within…your problems will start melting away.

Yes… The ice vanishes and the suns warmth returns.

Here’s how it may play out using our example;

Tim and Candy both love hiking in the hills together.

They both actively decide to let their problems go and have a weekend walking in country they used to love.

They agree, once the front door closes, they are away from their icy nightmare and once more enjoying the outdoor world they love, their chilling thoughts, being overtaken by the warmth of sharing their experience.

No longer is Candy feeling the frosty imaginary barrier because Tim’s always watching TV or surfing the web…

This glimmer moves to love making as they curl up beside each other in their tent that night.

This turns into… Tim feeling warmer, he finds new confidence, and as his confidence builds and he gets more determined about finding work.

With his new found confidence Tim finds work, it may not be the best, but it starts heating up the financial chill until he can find his something higher paying.

And slowly but surely, where Tim and Candy’s relationship was turning into a block of ice, now it is turning from icy cold to a warm, stronger and less chilly partnership than ever before.

The moral of the story is that with enough LOVE partners can solve most any problem including breakups, cheating, even a family death.

But when everything is chilly even the tiniest problems can easily become a full on arctic winter.

Now if you’re reading this, but feel that being locked in a freezer has frozen your love to a standstill, you may find it comforting to know that there is almost always a chance to bring warmth back again.

I’ve made some incredible new breakthroughs in the passion, bonding and REBONDING journey.

Many of these realizations are just as counterintuitive as the technique I’ve just gave you here.

I’ve made a special video for you and your partner where I share one of my counterintuitive rebonding techniques.

Please watch it here: How to Get Your EX Back Video

While I’m a no Brad Pitt on camera……the video has been watched over 893,000 times (rated 4 1/2 stars) and it’s rare for a day to go by where I don’t receive a really heart warming note from someone that has put their relationship back together after going through hell and fearing they’d never find their way back.

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